i autistic » Services » Autistic Buddy Mentoring Service (Level 1)

Most autistic adults have developed a long-term negative relationship with their parents. Thus, they refuse parental or professional intervention to better their lives. A buddy mentor gets around this issue by reaching the autistic client as an autistic peer.

Buddy mentors use their lived experience to provide a positive influence and informal mentoring. Mentoring is done as part of enjoyable leisure activities and social chats rather than in a formal or structured setting. Mentoring can help with:

1) Developing self-reliance with a resilient and proactive attitude to challenges in life
2) Taking multiple and deeper perspectives of life situations and human behaviours
3) Thinking and communicating clearly to promote mutual understanding and self-advocacy
4) Understand non-autistic people including constructive ways to collaborate with them
5) Developing inner clarity to live a purpose-driven life


A buddy mentor is not a professional mental health worker. Autistics with mental health issues are advised to seek professional help.

A buddy mentor is not a tuition teacher. Activities should be freely chosen and enjoyable to the client; any learning is an incidental bonus. Extrinsic pressure is counterproductive to building rapport.

A buddy mentor is not a babysitter. It is only as a neutral party that I can mediate between the autistics and their family members to come up with win-win solutions.

A buddy mentor is not an expert. I am open to clients teaching me new skills which will boost their self-esteem. I only consider myself an expert in the life experience and wisdom of being autistic.


As the buddy mentor can only proceed at the pace dictated by the autistic client, it may take a long time before the benefits are apparent. The service can be arranged as ad-hoc companionship during selected activities or as constant companionship via online messaging. Examples include accompanying autistics to:
1) Favorite places and activities as a friend
2) Family outings as a photographer
3) Complete chores as a teammate
4) Taking courses/workshops as a helpful classmate
5) Practicing for a speech/competition as a supporter


Autistics who qualify for buddy mentoring:
1) do not have any intellectual disability
2) do not have severe behavioural or mental health issues
3) are at least 16 years of age
4) are open to making friends and going out
5) can communicate either in English or Mandarin

While sponsors may choose to be silent about engaging me for this service. I expect the clients to find out on their own eventually. To sidestep this issue, consider engaging me officially to provide level 2 peer coaching – a goal-driven version of buddy mentoring – once the client is ready.


On-site buddy mentoring (i.e. where I must travel) costs SGD$60 per hour for a minimum of 2 hours.

Remote buddy mentoring (i.e. where I can work from home) costs SGD$40 per hour.

The initial session is a trial; it will only be chargeable if the client chooses to continue with the next session.

I commit to following the ethics of professional life coaches. Additional terms & conditions apply.

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