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An Autistic Guide to Facebook

When I started receiving invitations to join online social networks, I believed that these to be nuisances which I was forced to join when too many friends pressure me with invitations. I later realised that: With photos and names listed explicitly, I can keep track of my friends even when I have trouble with names...

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The strange art of social teasing

Teasing is an advanced social skill that uses distortions and exaggerations of facts (e.g., characteristics, quirks, history and interests) about a person to reinforce an existing relationship with that person. While teasing is often used for bullying, it can also be used to flirt and strengthen friendships. In mid-2018, I teased a female colleague over...

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Dating is not just looks and money

Working for an employer has a lot of similarities to building a romantic relationship, as there are many common skills and demands that both types of social relationships have. If you can't pass a job interview to get a job, you probably can't get a date (except with those who want to exploit you, such...

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Why casting a wide net is bad for autistic dating

Typical dating advice is that we “cast a wide net” by trying all possible avenues to find people interested in dating us. However, autistic people are at very high risk of exploitation and abuse since they tend to have poor social discernment. Hence, they should err on safety and only seek out low-risk dates.  ...

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How to prepare for dating success

For those of us not born into wealth, the preparation for dating success starts by getting our life in order.   1) Work on ourselves so that we can live independently Expect potential dates to reject candidates who require constant caregiving. If the costs of engaging in a relationship are too high, it will not...

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